Reality Bites by James A. Norton

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Now you’re just somebody that I used to know…

Times change, people change, the weather changes. Thank God for that last one. The pattern that all things change is commonplace in the real world where adults live. Not so much in the land of the lost and delusional. No, this isn’t me waxing poetic about my younger years or even the time of the old newspaper blog and the “wild west” atmosphere that fed into the likes of bloggers Dr. Mrs. McCarthy, The Mole and Delusional, to name a few.

This is about moving forward. They say you can’t get out of your own way until you step aside and take a look at the landscape. I’m a fairly bright fellow, and I never got what the author meant, until the other day. I realized that part of my problem is that I haven’t been able to stop lamenting things from my past. I couldn’t see beyond the blame game long enough to realize that it just didn’t matter.

Then, I stopped the madness. In the middle of what was easily the most stressful week I have had in several years, I just stopped blaming someone else and rather than blaming myself, I just let it go. It was that simple. So simple, in fact, that I immediately understood what that phrase meant very clearly. It’s a metaphor which speaks to having closure through your own self-reflection.

I think that it’s incredible that in this second half of my life I have found the love of my life, I have a better relationship with my kids than I ever had when they were little, I have a very relaxed and centered professional career and most importantly, I am happier than I have ever been. I can’t blame anyone for my faults or problems – not even myself – I can only keep moving forward and never, ever look back. #GMK

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